New laws in the UK have threatened parents who are blocking child access and ruining their childrens lives. This will come as a breath of fresh air to the many groups set up for the countless parents and family members who never see their children or grandchildren.

Sadly this has had some bad feedback from so called experts (Anthony Douglas) from Cafcass, who are suposed to advise the courts in what they they think is the best interest for the children.

‘I’m not convinced unpaid work will change the way people think or behave,’

‘It might be the right thing to do in a handful of cases. But what we really need is more specialist family support services with counselling for both children and parents.’

So not only does he think this should not be used, he is trying to keep Cafcass in the spotlight and give him and his workers more paid work. Cafcass was given the worst grade in a report by Ofsted and was told they were putting children at risk. They have been linked to countless forced adoptions and are one of the main subjects my readers email me about.

Harry Fletcher, spokesman for the probation union, Napo, said it could see thousands of people, mainly women, criminalised. ‘It could mean that distraught mothers do unpaid work alongside persons convicted of criminal offences,’ he warned. ‘It would conflict with childcare responsibilities.’

I love the choice of words here “It could mean that distraught mothers do unpaid work” like the other parents or grandparents are not DISTRAUGHT enough with not seeing their children or grandchildren! These “women” knowingly BREAK court orders and should have consequence! Right now they can break the orders and have NO (Thats right ZERO) consequences for breaking them… Apart from a judge Read more »

The past few weeks have been very very  hard for me. I keep trying to write things down on here but am just finding it so fing hard.

A friend of me committed suicide last week, and I have just found it so hard to cope with. I find it hard because I can understand why he did it… In some ways I am envious of him. He has peace now and will no longer spend every day hurting and living in pain.

I knew he was going to do it… I did try to stop him (Like I do with many people) and even though I tried so hard to talk him out of it, I could really understand why he was like he was.

He has not seen his children for 2 years. He is in Family court every month and is meant to have access to see his own children. He has had a court order to see them every other weekend for over 6 months… But every time he drives to pick them up they are never there.

I have stayed up many times talking to him and sometimes it is like talking to myself. He would give me photos of his daughter and tell me “This is what she looked like the last time I saw her” and then tell me “I don’t even know if I would recognize her anymore” to which I can relate.

He tried so hard to stick to the rules and went through all the right channels. He would wait all month for his time in court only to have his ex not turn up. He would drive the 2hours to go and pick his children up…. Even though he knew they would never be there.

He tried so hard, and now he is dead. I know he killed himself… but it was really the courts, laws, and his ex who killed him. You can only kick a man down so many times…

He told me he was at breaking point and he did not know what he would do. He told me he felt like killing some people and was no longer sure that he could control himself. He was very frustrated with everything and felt powerless. He was a nervous wreck and had lost so much weight that many people never knew who he was anymore.

He would tell me how he found it hard going to public places because he would see families and they would remind him of his own that was taken from him.

His last words: “I only ever wanted to me a good dad. I tried but had it taken away from me. I never did anything wrong apart from trying to keep my marriage alive. Now I will never see my children again. I cant cope anymore”