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Proof: Dads Are Equal
This is a LONG read but it is well worth it. If you cant read it all please read just part of it.
Sadly a friend of mind found out this quote a few days ago:
The research, which clearly illustrates how a father biologically responds to the birth of his children, also explains why thousands of men become clinically depressed when separated from their children to the point of actually committing suicide.
By Joel Leyden
Israel News Agency
Jerusalem —-June 3 ..
LINK….
It was not easy writing the above headline. But when Psychology Today, one of the most respected lay journals on clinical psychology releases research illustrating that fathers are empowered biologically no differently than women when it comes to nurturing children, all keywords are needed.
This evidence hits hard at social workers, family court judges and elected legislators who abide by archaic research and outdated laws which state that it is in the best interest of the child to be with the divorced mother - not the divorced father.
“Here is the first hard evidence that men are biologically prepared for fatherhood,” says Psychology Today. “In fact, this is the first evidence that to nurture is part of man’s nature.”
“Here is the first hard evidence that men are biologically prepared for fatherhood,” says Psychology Today. “In fact, this is the first evidence that to nurture is part of man’s nature.” Read more »
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YING YANG DemoniK by ~pantera714
Introduction
This week has been so strange! I have been working out non-stop and trying to get as fit as i possibly can… But I have also been really down and upset… So i guess ill split this post into two so i can get everything out.
Please remember that this is personal blog! I have had so many people e-mailing me asking why I am not posting and why I am not running contests or posting about other things I post about now and again… Maybe this blog is a bit messed up as I personally have no idea what it is about any more.
Anyway, I shall star
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I am now in the TOP 100K Alexa rankings 
I also had some GREAT comments and some funny feedback from my last post and tricked some people really good! I loved it!
I got myself a cool bike this week! I love it and have been riding it all I can… I did a long bike ride and it nearly killed me! I could not walk up my stairs without aches and pains 
I have also got myself some cool work out gear for when I cant be bothered to go out It is nice to work out and it just makes myself feel better
i have also been working with someone is designing some T-shirts and other items for when I go to court. I love the designs and hopefully in the next week or two I will also have a new template for my blog It is from my favourite designer Jai from www.blogohblog.com! I am using his template now (Very modified though) but wanted a personal one from him.
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The last few weeks my Mum has gone to see Faith and Jack which is great for them… but for me its just a downer as I just do not know what to say when they get back I should be happy for them and should also ask how everyone is doing… But I just find it hard to know as it just makes me see what I am missing and all the time ill never get back. Faith is meant to be really big now… jack is meant to be walking and doing other things a kid his age should be doing…. I just hope soon i get some pictures or something.
She also saw my ex and my Daughter harmony the other day. I find it really hard to hear anything about harmony as apart from some images I have no idea what she is like… I also miss my ex like crazy It sucks because I know we never failed! We did not split or leave on bad terms… We were forced apart by the powers that be.
I have no idea what she is doing… how she is coping raising a child on her own (Maybe she not on her own? Who knows) and I just wish I had some way to find out how my daughter is doing….
I have been contacted by some producers via this blog about them following me and the stages I will go through. I have turned it down because I know how the media can lie and turn on you without you knowing… I know the producer from a meeting I had with her a while ago… She is a very nice lady but until I this is over idon’t see myself doing anything to turn more attention to myself or people I was/am linked too.
I also have not been in the mood for much blogging… I have been so busy with some side projects and friends I talk to that blogging has taken a back seat. I also have been working on the poetry book I have been working on and hope to get that out as soon as everything is over.
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My children are pawns in a never ending game
So much has happened to me over the years and it is really hard for me to see what my life used to be like. When me and Steph split up 2 years ago, it was a real hard time for me. I was without my children and lost everything I owned. I was lucky enough to have a amazing new partner who made dealing with things much more easy…. At first I did get to see my children from time to time., but it always had to have strings attached. I would have to go meet up with my kids with Steph and have dinner or have to go to our old house and pick them up. The only problem with these was it always turned into her getting upset because she would try to get back with me. This really did stress me out because if I said no I would not see my children and she would get mad at me and drag them away… But if i said yes it would split me and my partner up and Stephs new partner (Who she was living with).
My answer was always “I don’t know, I have to think about things” and that would normally get me out of things. But sometimes it was so hard because my daughter would love seeing me and her mum together… I never did get back with her and nothing every happened… It was just emotional blackmail that she used that still effects me to this day.
My children are worth the world to me (All of them), but it is not fair to just make a relationship work just for your children. I knew we would never work, and i had tried for a very long time.
To put children through breakups and fights is just wrong, it is best to remove the situation and try to work things out straight away. Steph was in a new relationship and so was I… So why destroy her new partners life and my new partners?
When I finally made it very clear that I would never get back with her she started to do many evil things. She would tell me to pick my children up from my Mothers house and when I traveled there (2hs journey) they would not be there… This was very emotional for me as I had waited maybe 2-4 weeks for this day… And she would give me no explanation apart from “Don’t call me” or “Stay at your mums and ill drop them off tomorrow” which she did because she did not want me to be with my new partner.
She would also threaten me with taking my children away from my mother… if i never did things she would say “If you don’t, your mum will never see your children again” which she knew would effect me as my mother has issues of her own. This would also effect my Sister who is very much attached to my daughter and also has issues. She always knew what strings to pull with me… She would build me up to days I would see my children and then drag them away from me… She knew I could do nothing because anything “I” did is seen as bad in the eyes of the law… But anything she does is not believed in the eyes of the law.
She would make up lies, attack me a number of times and not tell me where my children were even living. My daughter one day even told me “Mummy told me you died and would not come back” which broke my heart.
With the whole situation I am in right now (Which I cant do into right now) it has made me see that to protect myself I have to remove myself from the situation until I can change it. This is very hard to do as my children are on my mind 24/7 along with my partner (Who I can no longer see).
I can no longer watch most TV shows because they remind me of family life, I cant listen to much music because it reminds me of my partner, and I have to watch what I read.
My whole life is on hold till the day I get to see my children and am able to move on from this situation I am in and have no control over.
One thing I always ask myself is “Has this changed me for the better?”, and my answer is “I don’t know” because I would kill for this not to have happened as it has been hell… But I have learnt so much and become so much stronger from this…
The only thing that kills me everyday is I know my children are out there right now… Not that far away from me… getting older and wiser…
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